We want to look good to the people around us! There’s nothing wrong with that – we all feel that way. We want everyone to have the best perception possible of us.
Yet, things sometimes happen in our homes, when we are tired or stressed or overwhelmed – when we were at our worst – that we would really rather not have other people know. This is very understandable! This is when we need to trust our to keep these things private and not to tell others what they don’t need to know.
Through the years that we struggled with Blaine’s addiction it was tough not to cry on all my friends’ shoulders but I just kept asking myself how I would feel if I were Blaine’s shoes. If I had the kind of struggle that he had, would I want everyone to know? Of course not! That’s what helped me to honor his trust and wait until I felt I couldn’t bear it alone any longer and then I let him decide who I could talk to.
Although there can be rare times when we or our children aren’t safe and we need to seek outside help immediately, almost always those things that we are angry or frustrated or resentful about in our spouse are things that could and should be handled discreetly.
Gossiping about your spouse to others can never do anything but make a bad situation worse. You want them to help you look your best in the eyes of others, you owe it to them to do the same!
Our CHALLENGE this week is to 1) stop gossiping if you have been, 2) apologize to your spouse if you have breached the trust and promise to do better and 3) DON’T GOSSIP ANYMORE!
You made a promise when you married them that they could trust you with anything. KEEP THAT TRUST!!